Pet Peeves

You know how bad things tend to happen in threes? I have a theory about this: Better to get them over with at once instead of having them spread out ruining your life at regular intervals. That’s how I’m going to vent about my pet peeves here. I’ve picked my top three and I’m unleashing them at once.

Pet Peeve # 1: Passive Aggressive People
Just stop! Say what you mean, mean what you say, and stop with the convoluted behaviors. I have a co-worker who, every time he’s about to criticize someone, prefaces it with, I hate to be negative but… No, you don’t hate to be negative. You revel in putting others down. But instead of being direct about it, you try to soften it with a preface and a fake I’m-really-a-nice-guy grin. I see through you. Then there’s my husband who, no matter how many times since I’ve been working from home and asked him, politely, to please communicate with me before he takes my car to work takes it anyway, without a word, leaving me stranded since I won’t drive his boat of a truck and he knows it. Just. Stop.

Pet Peeve # 2: People Who Think They’re Always Right
You are not always right. Let me say that again. You are not always right! No one is always right all of the time, every day of their life. No one! People like this bug me because they are not teachable. They don’t want to learn.  They just want to be right. Being right is the most important thing to them. More important than learning and growing and trying to see others’ perspectives. More important than having friends even, since no one likes a know-it-all who thinks they’re never wrong. Go away!

Pet Peeve # 3: Everyday Martyrs
We all know them. Maybe on occasion we’ve been one. But true everyday martyrs have mastered their roles. They could win an oscar with their long-suffering performances. Mothers and mothers-in-law are often the worst, or maybe it’s the best, martyrs. Cleaning up all the Thanksgiving dishes while everyone else lays around in a turkey stupor, banging and clanking pots and plates for attention, yet nobody hears or cares. Pretending it’s okay that their husband forgot their birthday, but spending the day sighing loudly in a woe-is-me way. Making sure everyone knows how hard they work, how much they do, and how unappreciated they are. Get over it! Ask for help with the dishes. Go buy yourself a birthday gift. Stop doing for everyone if it’s making you miserable. There is nothing to gain by being a martyr except negative attention that people, after a while, will completely ignore. 

There, I got that off my chest. Three pet peeves at once, so I’m not venting too much at regular intervals. I’m dying to know: What is your biggest pet peeve?

14 thoughts on “Pet Peeves

  1. I was taught from an early age that bragging about your accomplishments or telling people how much you are doing for or giving to charity takes away all the virtue that you might have earned. This is so ingrained in me that I am flabbergasted when I see others blithely breaking those rules with no clue how it makes me feel about them.

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  2. I think that passive aggressive people are one of my main pet peeves, as they are so very hard to deal with. I much prefer direct people, even if they are a bit rude. At least you know where you stand with them, and can be direct in your response.
    I’m also not a fan of the “holier than thou” attitude that is all too common today. Most of the memes on Facebook are really just another way of saying, “I’m so much better than all morons who aren’t just like me.” Who needs that attitude?

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    • As you know from my post, I find passive-aggressive types challenging. I also think they are the most dangerous. Not my husband, he really isn’t a mean person, but some PAs are really vindictive. I think I may be guilty of posting some of those holier than thou memes, though I try really hard not to 🙂

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  3. Maybe you should drive your husband truck, then he won’t take your car. My husband is shaken if I touch his car, because he is scared for his car. I don’t like when people don’t keep their words. And say one thing and do other things. Also I don’t like when people are upset and playing games with me like I am supposed to know what they are feeling or thinking. Just say straight forward. I am not a mind reader. At least not all the times.

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    • The truck is a sore spot for me. I used to drive it, until two bad things happened. The first is I backed into my teenage son’s car and smashed it up pretty good. The truck is huge and heavy and his car was small and pretty flat so I didn’t see it. At first I thought I had hit the curb in our driveway and so pressed the gas harder to go over it! In my defense, I was still waking up in the night with my youngest, nursing him, and rushing to go to work in the morning. Even though I had literally just walked past my son’s car, by the time I backed up I forgot about it and couldn’t see it over the truck bed. The second time was when I took his truck to an open house event at the university where I work and hit another car backing out of the parking space because I literally did not know how to back such a big tank out of a tight parking space and I couldn’t back straight out because other cars were parked and, as I said, the truck is huge. I am done driving that beast. I agree people that it’s frustrating when someone behaves in a huffy, offended manner yet won’t say why as if we should just know. I think that’s sort of martyr-ish.

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  4. #3 was me last Christmas! And you’re right. No one cared…not one soul that was in my house. Anywho, I learned a valuable lesson, and that is, I’m never cooking the entire holiday meal myself ever again.

    I don’t like passive aggressive people either. No one has time to try to sort through what you really meant when you said x, y, or z. Just say it outright.

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    • Kathy, I think we have all been there at some holiday or another at some point. I think for most of us it’s because we’re trying to do something nice for our family and get carried away. And like you, most of us learn the hard way!

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